O After O After O

Some people think multiple orgasms – aka, the Bionic O – are a myth. But to many women, the Bionic O’s existence is a moot point… they’d love to have just one orgasm during sex, period! A poll conducted by Ask Mars Venus revealed that 36 percent of women orgasm “some” of the time, rarely, or never when they’re between the sheets.

It seems though that the numbers may actually be higher than that. According to a study reported by The Kinsey Institute, only 29 percent of women always have orgasms with their partner (compared to 75 percent of men). That can seem like a disheartening number for the ladies (and yet another chink in a man’s effort to produce that Holy Grail for the woman they love).

Here’s the thing – most women simply don't orgasm as easily or as often as movies, television, and modern society would have us believe. In fact, 58 percent of women who responded to our poll admitted to “faking it” sometimes. Take heart guys – it’s often less to soothe your ego and more to take the pressure off of herself. It's almost impossible for a woman to have an orgasm if she feels she has to.

The female clients we speak to daily spend a good deal of their time thinking about and giving to everyone but themselves. Many women become so consumed with all their responsibilities of giving that their capacity to receive begins to diminish. Even the most sensitive man in the world can’t bring a woman to orgasm if her mind is on the household chores, or that last 10 pounds she thinks she needs to lose.

The key is to remember that women often need to experience intimacy on several levels in order to reach climax. Physical intimacy is, of course, important, but the emotional and mental elements are equally crucial and often overlooked, especially by men.

Many women express that their most satisfying sexual experiences come from being connected to someone… satisfaction isn’t all about orgasm. But being intimate with someone on physical and verbal levels (communication again – it’s always important!) can get a woman that much closer to the pleasure she’s long been after. Women need time to warm up – and, guys, you can learn how to help her get there.

→ The Bionic Multiple O –is it a myth or a reality in your sex life?